I am a guest blogger for Geralin Thomas of Metropolitan Organizing. This post was first published there on December 20th, 2013.
Even though this is geared towards enjoying the holidays, there is lots of good information here on getting rid of the JUST BECAUSES and taking care of yourself.
Just Because You Want to Enjoy the Season
No matter if you celebrate Christmas, Chanukah, Kwanza or Winter Solstice, you more than likely have been a victim to this.
For example, you have Turkey for Christmas dinner just because that is what your family did growing up. However, you want to start a new tradition of cooking Italian, but feel guilty that you are letting a family tradition go.
You have to buy gifts for everyone in your extended family just because that is how it has always been done, but spending money you don’t have leaves you stressed out and in debt and you’re not sure anyone likes or needs the gifts you buy.
Aunt Maple will be upset if you don’t have a slice of her world famous triple chocolate pumpkin pie just because she slaved all day in the kitchen, but you are committed to eating healthier and not going completely overboard.
You really want to slow down and savor the season but just because you have always gone to your neighbor’s open house you feel obligated despite the fact that they leave you exhausted and drained.
Let’s examine some statistics around this time of the year:
Here are some areas that I see my clients get overwhelmed and some possible solutions. Remember, these scenarios (and the ones above) are a form of emotional and spiritual clutter!
There’s Always One Person that creates drama, sucks the joy out of everything or causes disturbances.
Solutions: Someone talks with them and explains their behavior will not be tolerated and they will be asked to leave. Assign the person with the most patience to keep an eye out for them to keep them out of trouble. Do not invite them or attend an event where they will be. Spend time with people who nourish you and fill your soul.
Buying More Than You Can Afford and waking up in January with a credit hangover or a diminished bank account.
Solutions: Discuss with family & friends. Many probably feel same way and will be relieved you suggested! In my family, the generation above gives the generation below. My brothers and I no longer exchange gifts. Some big families pick one person to give a gift to. Why not make this year a ReGift theme and let go of something you don’t want that would bring someone else joy?
Remember, if someone cares that much about how much you spend or the gift is really important is it really someone you want to be friends? Don’t forget to keep a running budget so you don’t overspend.
Another item to dust that really isn’t your style or taste, but you don’t want to offend the gift giver.
Solutions: Buy experiences: concert tickets, plays, a trip. Donate to a charity the gift recipient would love. Give memberships to a gym or club. Make your own: knit, put together ingredients for soup or a cake. Offer your babysitting or culinary services. This year, my “big” gift (a little early!) was Sweet Pea, a cat we rescued from Calvin’s Paws (http://www.calvinspaws.com) a cat & dog rescue, adoption and education organization in Raleigh, NC.
Overindulging & overextending yourself in eating, entertaining & festivities and regretting it before, during and after!
Solutions: This is a great time to start a self-care routine if you don’t have one already. Find a buddy that can help you stick to moderation. Say NO! to what you don’t want to do. Have a potluck instead of an elaborate party. Volunteer at a Soup Kitchen or a charity. Go out to eat to concentrate on family and friends.
Do something YOU Want! instead of being sucked into pressure or guilt. The holidays are about connecting, celebrating, gratitude and your religious or spiritual beliefs, not about Black Friday deals, feeling overwhelmed and running around like crazy.
EXERCISE: Make a list of what you have liked about the holidays in the past and what you didn’t like. Also include something that you think you might enjoy doing.
TAKE ACTION ITEM: Where can you eliminate a “just because”?
EXTRA CREDIT: Examine another area in your life where you do something “just because”. For example, you are friends with someone who always takes from you, and never gives back, just because you’ve been friends for 20 years. Is there another “just because” you can let go of?
Like many things in life, this is a process. Celebrate where you are able to make changes and commit to making more changes in the future!
Wishing you and yours an incredible season filled with much love, happiness and joy! May all your dreams come true in 2014~
When my husband moved in with me, we were almost overrun by his tools in the garage. Tony can fix anything and he takes care of his tools, so they aren’t clutter. But, it took some work on the garage to get it into shape and we’re always looking for more we can do or make it easier for Tony.
I write this blog annually because it’s smart, creative, easy to do and cheap! You probably already have jars in your home!
Attach glass Ball jars underneath a table or shelf. Nail the lids to the underside of a surface near where you store your tools, then twist the jars into place. Put like size nuts & bolts in one and wood screws in another. Attach an empty jar so that when you are working on a project you can keep all the hardware for it in one place.
I’m very fortunate that my husband is very handy! Tony can create something from nothing — he has created space in our home where there is none! We love to look at home improvement stores for deals. We also look at Habitat for Humanity ReStores. They are a great resource of materials ranging from cabinetry, lighting, hardware. I have heard stories of some amazing finds!
You can also receive a tax write off for donated items, so clear some clutter before you start your next project!
Call the store or check out the website for guidelines.
Saving money & resources is a win win for everyone!
Summer is here! Staying hydrated is very important!
Stop the insanity known as bottled water! We didn’t have this when I was a kid; let’s get back to that!
- Americans buy an estimated 29.8 billion plastic water bottles every year.
- Nearly eight out of every 10 bottles will end up in a landfill.
- It is estimated that the production of plastics accounts for 4 percent of the energy consumption in the U.S.
By making a simple switch to a BPA-free bottle will save you money & be better for the earth. You can buy one for each family member in his or her favorite color. (I recommend coordinating backpacks, school supplies, bath towels, toothbrushes, etc. for children).
Annie Rohrbach is a colleague and friend. She speaks my language when it comes to letting go of clutter and getting organized! She is the author of the powerful and content-rich book Conscious Order: Clear Your Mind, Leave Clutter Behind, which helps you identify and clear out your mental clutter first. With a clearer mind, it is easier to make decisions, clear your spaces and create the order and peace of mind you desire.
She is also co-founder of the Holistic Organizers, advocating a compassionate, heart-centered approach that addresses all aspects of a client’s life–physical, emotional, mental and spiritual.
To purchase her book and learn more about Annie, please visit: http://www.consciousorder.com/
This is something that I still am challenged on doing! Living in the present moment is truly a present. I’ll discuss how it relates to clutter we keep as well as share some exercises.
Happy Birthday to me! I think celebrating your birthday should be fun! So, while I’m celebrating, check out my product review of the Wrap It Gift Bag!
Clearing Clutter Inside & Out assists you in clearing all clutter from your life to create the life you want! This is a review of the Wrap It Gift Bag, a handy product to help you organize all of your bows, wrapping paper & more. For more information, please visit:http://wrapitgiftbag.com
Join me for our first interview on the “outside” with Emily Parks of Organize for Success, LLC. Emily will share where most people get stuck and create clutter in technology. Versed in both PC & Mac, Emily will touch on topics such as email, apps, common mistakes people make & more! We will have Q & A.
For more information about Emily, please visit: http://www.organizeforsuccess.biz
This was originally posted on Metropolitan Organizing, where I do a monthly guest blog. For more information about Geralin Thomas and her business Metropolitan Organizing, please visit: http://metropolitanorganizing.com/
When I was in college one of my favorite bands was (and still is) the Indigo Girls.
I sang one line often those years (“I spent four years prostrate to the higher mind, got my paper and I was free.”) I knew all the lyrics, but didn’t give much thought to their meaning.
One stanza of my favorite songs, Strange Fire, finally makes sense to me:
“When you learn to love yourself, you will dissolve all the stones that are cast, you will learn to burn the icing sky and to melt the waxen mask. Yes, to have the gift of true release, this is a peace that will take you higher.”
When I truly loved myself, my life fell into place.
When you love yourself, you follow your heart and passion.
You don’t worry about what others think and you are kind to yourself.
Loving yourself removes obstacles and lets you truly live your life.
In what ways do you not love yourself? Many of you might say, “Oh, that’s a silly question. Of course I love myself.”
Here are some ways we don’t love ourselves:
- Overeating, overspending, drinking too much, etc.
- Not following our heart or passion–we do what we think others want us to do or have told us we should do. (This is the #1 regret of the dying.)
- Speaking harshly and/or negatively to ourselves.
- Not exercising, eating right or giving ourselves good self care.
- Spending time with people who don’t treat us well.
- Not accepting ourselves as we are.
- Not allowing love, compliments and gratitude into our lives.
- Taking everything so seriously!
- Not taking responsibility for our lives. Playing the victim doesn’t hurt anyone else; it only hurts you.
Pick one area in your life where you need to be more loving with yourself.
I have always struggled with how my body looks. I am built like my mother and that’s how it goes. Even when I was thin, I had thick biceps.
I used to always be mean to my body. Then I heard about Japanese researcher Masaru Emoto. He took pictures of water crystals at various circumstances—after healings, listening to heavy metal music, and prayers. The differences are amazing. Our bodies are over 70% water, so there is reason to believe that negative thoughts have physical repercussions.
Here is a site with some photos: http://www.unitedearth.com.au/watercrystals.html
I created a plan for when I’m not so loving towards myself:
- Announce very loudly (if by myself!) “Take a seat, ego! No room here for your false beliefs!”
- Immediately focus on something about my body that I love: “You have the lovely eyes. Your smile puts Julia Roberts to shame.”
- Remember other compliments that people have given me: “You are beautiful.” “Your skin glows—you have such a pretty complexion.”
- Pick up the phone! If I am having a particularly rough time and doing a bit of a downward spiral, (“I am soooo fat” becomes “I am never going to be able to buy clothes again and no one will want to hire me.”) I call one of my friends that is non judgmental, sets me right and assists in picking me up. Of course, I do the same for them!
- Go within/Seek Assistance. A lot of times the little stuff is really about something else. A few months ago I had some drama around my online TV show, Reawaken Your Brilliance. Three things happened within a matter of weeks. I know to pay extra close attention when things happen in threes. I went within and couldn’t figure it out so called someone who does Emotional Freedom Technique. The drama wasn’t related to the show at all; it was about some fears I had of being a mother. The path might not always be obvious, but it is worth it to explore.
TAKE ACTION ITEM
Look in the mirror and say, “I love you.”
Notice how you feel. Do you look away? How do you feel? Are you holding your breath?
Listen to what comes up. My chiropractor, Dr. Julianne Trell encourages me to ask, “Whose voice is that?” because often times it isn’t our own; it’s someone else’s that has gotten stuck in our head. Because, truly, from a soul level you know you are a divine being.
Pay it forward. When you hear your spouse, sister, child, aunt, uncle, parent, friend say or do something unkind about themselves gently point out to them that they aren’t being loving to themselves. Tell them all the reasons you love them.
Photo compliments of Rebecca Kiger Fotografia
Very easy tip to let go of clutter and get organized!